Does Your Girlfriend Tell You She Loves You and Should You Care?
I was shocked. Was she cheating right in front of me, not even caring? I went up to the high school that day to pick my girlfriend up from school and wound up going home by myself while she rode home with another guy. That was the beginning of the end of that relationship and I hadn't seen it coming. I hadn't been paying attention, I'd been taking her affection for me for granted. And, it goes without saying, I had probably not been paying much attention either, to how I had been treating her.
But, I had learned a lesson from that sweet girl. I needed to pay a lot of attention to how I treated other people and how they were treating me, instead of being satisfied with hearing words that made me feel good. If you want to know how someone feels about you, pay a lot of attention to how they treat you and how they treat others.
If your girlfriend leaves with another guy when you show up to take her home, it's a pretty good sign she's about done with you, no matter what she says to the contrary.
Don't concern yourself with whether or not your girlfriend loves you, or even likes you, pay attention to how she treats you. Would you really want a girlfriend who treats you like crap, but tells you she loves you every five minutes. Or would you prefer a girl who acts like she adores you, but never tells you she loves you at all? Personally, I'd rather be adored any day.
So, pay attention to how she treats you. And before you get too involved with that, spend even more time observing how you treat her. It's extremely easy when you have a of things on your mind, when you're concerned with your studies or work situations, to be very sensitive to how people are treating you, without even realizing that you are not treating other people very well yourself.
If you don't come by it naturally, and most of us don't, except when we've just won the lottery and everything is great with the world, you should practice focusing your awareness to observe how you are treating other people. Don't take your friends and loved one's for granted. It's very easy to do. Without any intention of doing so, you can be short, critical, impatient, inattentive or unloving because you aren't bothering to be aware of the affect of your own behavior on the people around you.
And among all the other things you have on your mind at any one time, you're wondering why your wife or husband, girlfriend or boyfriend is treating you as if they aren't much interested in you at best, and don't particularly like you much at worst.
On the other hand, you need to take into consideration that everyone else can be having a hard time or a bad day, just like you do and may not be aware themselves of how they are treating you. In other words, it may not have anything to do with you. Be considerate of what's going on with them. If your girlfriend has just failed her math exam, and isn't paying a whole lot of attention to you, that's probably not a good time to tell her she isn't acting like she loves you.
If you're treating her right, and you're sure of it, and she isn't treating you as if she cares much about you, she probably doesn't. And if she really does care about you, but treats you badly, maybe you should look for someone who doesn't tell you how much she cares about you very often, but treats you like you're the greatest guy in the world.