How to Survive a Break Up – 3 Tips on How to Handle a Break Up The Right Way
Looking for advice on how to survive a break up? I don't blame you. Getting over a break up is not easy. The severity of the break up depends on a variety of factories: how close you were with your ex, how long you were together, and how committed and invested you were to the relationship. Although the difficulty involved in getting over a break up differs for every person, most people tend to have a very difficult time dealing with a break up.
1. Get closure
One of the biggest reasons that so many people have such a hard time dealing with a break up is because it's really hard to get the closure you need. Your ex owes you the truthful reasons for breaking up with you. If you poke at them enough for it, they tend to eventually give in. If they simply don't love you any more, that is enough reason for you to be apart from them. Take it as well as you possibly can and move on. Do you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? Do you really want to be with someone who doesn't value you for the amazing person you are? You deserve better, so move forward and keep looking for the right one
2. Cut contact
This is one of the most crucial parts of a break up, yet one of the hardest. It is common to chase a recent ex up with phone calls, text messages, e-mails, Facebook messages, etc. Honestly, it will drive you mad. You will very rarely hear what you want to hear. It will also make you seem desperate and needy, which will put them off you completely. At this point, your ex will know you want him/her back, which puts them in complete control. Take some control back by simply cutting communication for good.
If you want to know how to handle a break up the right way then you should avoid face-to-face contact with your ex at all costs. That means avoiding their usual hangouts and friends. Perhaps this is tough if you see your ex at work or don't live in a big enough town to avoid them completely all the time. If that's the case, don't do much more than say hello if you see them. Even if you have friends that are friends with your ex, avoid those friends for a little while. Make it clear to them that it's nothing personal to them and that you just need the time away from possible contact with your ex in order to move on with your life.
3. Focus on yourself
This is another very important step. You need to stop thinking about your ex all the time and just focus on yourself. Life is beautiful, with or without your ex. Focus on your hobbies, friendships, work, and who knows.. maybe you will eventually meet a special someone that is right for you. The latter shouldn't be rushed of course, but just get back to your life and enjoy it to the fullest. Look after yourself and let yourself feel happy.
If you really focus on the things I mentioned in this article, I promise you will make it. Remember that you can be happy and enjoy life without your ex. If you were fine before that partner came into your life, then you will be fine once again. It may not be easy in the beginning but you will get through it and get better. I promise.