What Does Silence Say in Your Relationship?

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When you look around a restaurant there are people laughing, loving, and quietly eating. Perhaps the quiet stories are harder to read than the laughing friends, the boisterous group or the squabbling family, but there are volumes told about relationships.

When you see a couple people sitting in silence in a restaurant, perhaps you wonder what is wrong. You may think they have talked themselves dry. There is often a lot said in silence, sometimes pain, sometimes joy, it is all a matter of the people involved and their relationships with each other.

Silent as Death.

You may see a couple quietly fuming. They can not talk to each during dinner without an argument. The meal before them is consumed in quiet anger. Neither one of them can enjoy either the meal, the restaurant or their own companion. This is not a key to success, a meal is designed as something to be shared and enjoyed, especially at a restaurant.

If you are in this couple, put aside your differences for a bit, enjoy the meal. Find some way to make this meal, like a special date. Should you be just a couple of friends, put aside the anger and relish your friendship. In both cases, delight in the relationship that the two of you share, find what brought you together.

Silence is Golden

Another couple may also be quiet. When they look up, or look at each other the gaze is met with happiness and love. Love, even if never spoken, is a gift not just between lovers but between friends as well. With people in good communication and relationships with each other, even the silence can speak volumes.

Quiet people may also quietly pay for dinner for another reason just to share. They may silently give a big tip, or help the waitress who deals with a rough group. What they do may speak louder than words ever could. A gift given in silence with no expectations is beautiful, even if the gift is as small as a simple smile.

Where are you?

When you are out with just one other person, do you sit in silence? While you may not realize it there is something said about the relationship between you two. It either speaks of anger or quiet acceptance. If you part of a couple silently fuming at each other, remember why you are together. Put aside your differences and find the beauty in each other. Turn the silence of death, into a golden silence.

Do not underestimate the determination of a quiet man. Iain Duncan Smith